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10 Things Not to Say to Your Kids

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Some of the things you say to your kids may need rephrasing. See which of the following commonly goes out of your mouth and learn how to say it differently.

 

1.  “That’s What Happens When You…”

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Saying this is like kicking a dog when it’s already down. To save a hurt child from feeling upset further, you may say something like “you just realized that rocking your chair had caused you to fell on the floor”.

2.  “Wait Until Your Mom/Dad Learns About This!”

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Saying this does a couple of things. First, you are passing the responsibility of dealing with the issue to another authority. Second, you are only causing your kids to fear the person you plan on telling the issue to.

3.  “No Running/Yelling/Fighting!”

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The word “no” is negative and kids will listen more it you state rules in a positive way. Replace “no running” with “please walk” to prevent your kids from seeing you as someone critical.

4.  “Great Job!”

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The next time you compliment your kids, do so in a way that it sounds like you really love what they did and not what you think of it. For instance, say “you did it!” rather than “great job!” to acknowledge them for the job well done.

5.  “Don’t Argue with Me!”

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This is something commonly said out of frustration. That’s why whatever that goes out of your mouth is usually impractical, such as “no TV for a week” or “no dinner”. Rather than sound threatening and unrealistic, it’s a better idea to say something like “if you choose to (continue doing the behavior or act), you choose to (receive the consequence established)”.

6.  “If You Do That Again…”

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This is something commonly said out of frustration. That’s why whatever that goes out of your mouth is usually impractical, such as “no TV for a week” or “no dinner”. Rather than sound threatening and unrealistic, it’s a better idea to say something like “if you choose to (continue doing the behavior or act), you choose to (receive the consequence established)”.

7.  “You’re Doing It Wrong!”

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Telling kids how to do things impedes creativity and discovery of new things. Point out what they have done wrong without judging. For instance, saying “you colored the elephant green instead” is judgment-free.

8.  “You Can’t Do That!”

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To kids, this will only make them realize that it is in fact possible to do the thing you’re telling them not to do. Rather than say this, it’s a better idea to mention facts such as “the wall is not for coloring” or “the gold fish does not eat cake”.

9.   “You’re Making Me Mad!”

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Parents are responsible for how or what they feel, not their children. Instead of saying “you’re making me mad right now”, it’s better to say something like “I am feeling upset now” to show that you choose to feel that way, not them.

10.  “We’re (The Act Kids Refuse to Do), Okay?

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Saying something like “we’re going to eat here again and buy that humungous hamburger you like, okay?” is practically begging for approval. “It’s time to go, but we’ll have your burger next time” is firm without hurting his or her feelings.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Source: thekidcounselor

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